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Give the Present of Presence

Give the Present of Presence

[Five minute read.]   We live in a distracted world. It’s not just ever-present electronic devices randomly buzzing and beeping their streaming commands. It’s not just a wide world of shifting possibility driving our fear of missing out. It’s not just too many choices and decisions, demanding our attention, even though most are unnecessary and…

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A Book and its Cover

A Book and its Cover

[6 minute read] I thought a lot about what to put on the cover of this book. I didn’t want something bland. That doesn’t fit the message or tone. I didn’t want a big picture of myself. That seemed silly and self-important. I don’t have that kind of name (or face) recognition. Besides, this isn’t…

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Still Sticking the Landing

Still Sticking the Landing

Multiple Sclerosis is a weird condition. It’s different for everyone who has it. Your own condition is even a different experience everyday. I’ve lived with it for a long time now (at least 16 years), and it’s still surprising. It’s also not what most people expect. In the popular consciousness, it’s associated with impaired mobility….

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But You Don’t Look Sick!

But You Don’t Look Sick!

Next time you’re in a crowd, look around. Odds are that every second person you see has a chronic diagnosis. And most of us will look like everyone else. You’d never peg us as “sick.” You’d think we were “normal” — and, in fact, we are, in two important ways: First, there are now as…

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Independence!

Independence!

Today is the day Americans celebrate colonial independence, the beginning of a centuries-long experiment in representative democracy. But our desire for political self-determination stems from a much more basic human need: agency. We need to feel like we have some control over our own lives. But half of us face silent challenges to our independence…

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The Pause before the Fear

The Pause before the Fear

We live in a fearful world. Stop for a minute and think about how you experience “fear.” Remember a time when you were afraid. Maybe you were being attacked by a bloodthirsty, pop culture pirate? Probably not (yeah, that’s me with the sword). I’ve had many of those fearful moments: that little hitch right before…

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Daddy is Sick

Daddy is Sick

I remember the first time my children looked disappointed in me. It’s a look you never want to see. You know that, someday, they’ll figure out you’re just human, but you’re never ready for it when it comes — especially when it happens far too young. It was a hot, summer day. They were badgering…

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People Think I’m Lazy

People Think I’m Lazy

Oh, I don’t know that for certain. But it’s one of those beliefs people with chronic illness (especially the invisible kind) have to face. “Lazy” is right up there with “needy,” “attention-seeking,” “flakey,” and “liar.” Fatigue is one of the major byproducts of living with most chronic health conditions. The reason is simple: your body…

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